These occasional posts will showcase a variety of article links which have caught my interest. They’re in no particular order, but loosely grouped together for ease of reading. (Author twitter accounts included where found.)
What’s particularly difficult about polyamory is not only figuring out how to set boundaries that keep you emotionally healthy. It’s doing that in a multi-person system where things still affect you. But without meddling in stuff that has little or nothing to do with you. Many people seek out polyamory as a relationship style because they connect easily with others.
Why I’ve Learned To Embrace JOMO — The Joy Of Missing Out by Maranda Elizabeth (@MarandaDearest)
I viewed my departure not as escaping, not as hiding, but as self-preservation, as knowing my own boundaries, knowing where I would rather be, and getting there. I was grateful to be in my bed again, to be alone, alone, alone.
Compassion and connection fill out the picture in Bauer-Wu’s methodology for changing the way patients experience their condition. Tuning in and not turning away from pain grounds you in the present moment. It is compassion that enables you to rediscover “your innate goodness” and the warmth of your heart. It enables you to communicate and connect with others, and counteract the isolation and self-involvement that turns a painful condition into repeated suffering.
One of the greatest let downs of the country is our failure to ask young people themselves what would help, he says. Rather, we’ve relied on leaders who have, so far, got it wrong.
It means that we are willing to walk alongside another person in whatever journey they’re on without judging them, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to impact the outcome. When we hold space for other people, we open our hearts, offer unconditional support, and let go of judgement and control.
What we call pain is actually a conglomerate of three components: the actual physical sensations, the emotions we have about the pain, and the meaning the pain has for us and our life, which we call “the story.” They are lumped together in our experience as if they only coexisted together in a box labeled PAIN.
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